Getting diagnosed was freeing, actually in multiple ways. However it’s started with a crash, with telling my wife about my life. Something I hadn’t done in the 12 years we had been married. She knew some things but just a tiny fraction. I shattered, there isn’t another word for it. She then spent days reassuring and consoling me. I honestly don’t think I have ever cried so intensely. Next came acceptance from the community and caregivers, encouragement and words which used to hurt, beautiful words but too rare before to feel comfortable. What followed was a series of meltdowns but my wife and friends kept me holding on. It was only a couple of months ago I stopped physically shaking when interacting online. And now for the great bit, a self taught, housebound, autistic husband and father really tasted life. I felt it deep within me, I knew because that feeling was almost always missing. I want to thank a few people, I wish I could include everyone so please know if your name’s not here it’s because I didn’t want this post to look like Santa’s list, that’s all. Firstly a massive thank you to Beyonce, Crowded House, Ocean Colour Scene and OneRepublic for sharing community songs to your page mentions. I not only felt truly honoured but so grateful for the inclusion that represents. Sofia, you helped me get here, absolutely no doubt, I thank you and won’t ever forget it. Arielle is a remarkable woman, with such kindness in her soul. A mental health advocate in Canada and she’s been a source of strength for me. Always checking in when I went quiet for too many days. I also want to thank my family, my Mum Dad and brother. My memories will never match your own, I appreciate that you all recognised and respected that. I always wanted a closer relationship and I am so glad that it’s possible. Finally Jeni, you already shine like a star, I am so proud to work with you and to be a part of your journey. Here is our mylifeautistic journeys, may they be bright ones. Thank you for seeing the real me every one. I used to think caring people didn’t exist any more, now... I love that I’m surrounded by them. All my best and love Ross www.mylifeautistic.com Words – Ross Fraser Graphic Design App – Canva #NewLifeAutistic
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Thank you to everyone who helped me find myself and a position I will always be proud to have had. This is by far the most rewarding thing I have ever done