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Demisexual

Updated: Mar 10, 2023

I put this image out as a comment to another post yesterday (on another page), about accepting people. I ended up with a laugh reaction, which is really why I’m putting this post out. I really don’t care that they thought it was funny, but I do care that people are dismissed for being open about who they are.

What’s more I don’t really understand why it’s funny that someone is looking for mental intimacy before sexual intimacy. How has that become a strange concept. I see an individual for their mind, for what makes them who they are. If I do fall in love it’s a deep connection that not only bonds but creates a safe space. Somewhere I can just be me without worrying if that’s ok. I tell my wife everything, I do not hold back with her, or hide anything. She knows me so deeply that she knows what I need when I can’t communicate my wishes, when I can’t talk. She understands me and my natural reactions because she’s got to know me, my mind, who I am.

I’ll be honest, if this gets just laugh reactions then so be it. However is it not crazy that someone looking for mental attraction, rather than physical as the foundations for a relationship is seen as being funny or strange. To me sex is at the end of a long corridor, one that’s created through, and only through, a mental connection.

People are dismissed, often, for not being the same as others. People are different, judging someone for being different, unfortunately that’s at the heart of a lot of problems people face.

All our best and love

Ross Fraser and Jeni Curtis

Mylifeautistic

Words - Ross Fraser

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mylifeautistic
mylifeautistic
Mar 09, 2023

https://www.elle.com/uk/life-and-culture/culture/a32765/what-it-means-to-be-demisexual/

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mylifeautistic
mylifeautistic
Mar 09, 2023

I am going to end this week with this post. I hope you all have a good weekend and look after yourselves. I'm still dealing with burnout, although it's not quite as bad as it was, so I'm going to rest up and I'll be back on Monday.


Take care everyone, and remember to be kind to your mind.


All our best and love

Ross Fraser and Jeni Curtis

mylifeautistic

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mylifeautistic
mylifeautistic
Mar 09, 2023

Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which an individual does not experience primary sexual attraction. The attraction comes from the mind, not the body, a mental attraction has to be there first.

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